Husband demanding sex even though I am pregnant

Dear Pastor,

I am 26 years old and I am writing to you for some advice. I am pregnant but my husband always wants us to have sex.

I am a fat person and sometimes I am very tired. I am carrying a big stomach already and my pregnancy is five months along. I suspected that my husband went out and had sex over the weekend, but he has denied it. He told me he was out with a friend, but when I called the friend, he told me he had not seen my husband all week. I told my husband that I would not have sex with him anymore without protection. He told me that he could help himself in other ways. I told him to go ahead, but I don't mean it because I don't want to lose him. He is a good husband.

I wanted my husband to tell me the truth, but when I told him to go ahead, I did not mean to give him permission. My husband is very strong, so whenever we are having sex, he does not take his time; he is jamming me as if I am not pregnant. Sometimes he would want us to have sex two or three times for the night. I don't know what to do.

What suggestions can you give?

Anonymous

Dear Writer,

You are not sure whether your husband went to another woman and had sex.

I say that because you have not mentioned why you suspected him. He told you he was with a friend, but the friend told you that he had not seen him. That does not mean that he went and had time in bed with another woman. Sometimes it is better for a spouse not to try to find out whether her man is telling her the truth. It is not everything a man wants his woman to know. Having said that, it is always wrong for a man or woman to lie to their spouse. To do so, it is called lack of trust. And when trust is broken, it is difficult to rebuild. There are times when a woman should say in her mind "Alright, you think you can fool me, but I am going to leave it right here."

Your pregnancy is about five months along, but according to you, your stomach is very big. Your doctor can advise you how to have sexual intercourse with your husband during your pregnancy. There are many different positions that can be used. I hope you do not believe that having sex with your husband will hurt the child; it will not. Some couples have sex up to eight months of pregnancy, but they should desist if the doctor advises them to stop. You say your husband is very rough when it comes to sex and that is where good communication is important.

Don't push your husband away from you. He has sexual needs to be met, but at the same time, he should be reasonable and understanding. I wish both of you well.

Pastor